Introduction: Is the chain strong, or will it break down? How can we be more influential with our families, our friends, and in our workplaces? Are we forfeiting our influence because of a lack of understanding—or worse, an unwillingness to make an honest evaluation of ourselves?

How can we leave a more lasting legacy? Are we supposed to simply eat, drink, and be merry, without caring about our influence on others? Have we fallen into a rut of pleasing ourselves?

How does character connect to leadership? Should there be standards for leadership? Where do we draw the line? Do we admire others who lead well? And are we willing to pay the price to be effective leaders for our families and our peers?

What character traits need to change—whether good or bad? Truthfully and honestly, are you willing to take a moment to examine not just what you say, but what you do—or don’t do? More importantly, are you willing to take the necessary steps to make change as you pray, submit to God, and cooperate with His Holy Spirit?

Recently, I had a conversation with a Christian father who had not spoken with his stepson for months due to a serious conflict. After prayer and biblical counsel, it was decided that he would take the initiative as a leader and seek reconciliation. He did—and it worked.

Why? Because these are biblical principles laid out in the Word of God. Obedience to the Word of God, combined with being empowered by the Holy Spirit of God, is the only way to develop godly Christian character—and to change ungodly character. And remember, all of this should bring glory to the Lord, not to us.

Now for the practical side of “strengthening the links in the chain and making it stronger.”

For men, it has often been said that it is easier to lead an army of ten thousand men than to lead a family with Christian love and grace—without being overbearing and without under-disciplining. Our leadership sets an example, and our children are deeply affected by it.

For women, it has been said that only Spirit-filled women who overcome bitterness and performance-based acceptance can permanently influence their children or grandchildren toward stronger character traits—though not perfection.

Conclusion: Whether you realize it or not, you are in a leadership position. Every man and woman reading this devotion carries influence over others. What kind of influence are you portraying?

Is there a need for any changes? Honestly, are you being a stepping stone—or a stumbling block? How strong is your chain?